MGTOW Analysis

I recently got introduced to the “Manosphere” world. This is an interesting phenomenon. MGTOW, Men Going Their Own Way, ostensibly is about men deciding to concentrate less on getting into a relationship, however that is defined by the man in question, and more about maximizing their own life. Since that is what this site is all about, men maximizing their own lives, I decided I should weigh in. This is the first article I have put out on this subject, but I’m sure it won’t be the last.

OK, let’s start with what seems to be the underlying premise for many of these men, that women are are the cause of their misfortune and unhappiness. This will be true for some men, false for others. I expect some men will blame women for all man’s troubles. Some men, and I know a few personally, have been “raked over the coals” by women, mostly ex-wives. Two that I know have legitimate complaints, about child custody, child support, half their stuff being taken, etc. in one case, just because his wife decided she didn’t want to be married to him any longer. Cut them some slack. They’ve been screwed, and not in the fun way.

The videos I have seen run the gamut from men who think women deliberately set out to take advantage of men, to men running down women for “hypergamy”, to men who are upset because women won’t give them the time of day, so to speak. My initial reaction to the video posts was to agree with much of the substance of the articles, but to wonder why it matters, from a MGTOW standpoint. If a man is truly “going his own way”, why does it matter what women do. If I’m going my own way, contact with women should be incidental. I’ll stop and interact with those that interest me, and I’ll ignore those that don’t. Being a man, most women will pique some level of interest. If I interact with them and they don’t hold my interest, I’ll move on. If they decide I’m not worth their time, they will let me know it’s time to move on. The important point here is, I will move on, without lingering doubt or animosity or other negative emotion. Every other person I meet is a woman. There is no reason to waste time with a woman who does not give me what I want. I’ll keep moving until I find the one who does. And if she changes, or if what I want changes and she doesn’t, I’ll move on. No regrets. No hard feelings. If we become incompatible, why would either of us want to stay in that?

Men have been doing this for years (and paying the price). Women have begun to do the same thing, because they have come into choices over the past 30 years or so. Women now have equality, even superiority, in the workplace, at least in Western society. They are now taking equality in the dating scene, making choices that are right for them, as opposed to hoping to be chosen by a man. We shouldn’t fault them for doing what we have been doing for millennia. But there should be, and is, a price for them to pay for the equality. That price, as evidenced by the social media trends, is a shortage of men who want to be on the other end of their choices (or a shortage of men who meet their ever-expanding criteria). The challenge with having choices is that you have to make one. And, yes, choosing not to choose is still a choice.